The Meeting Place

This past weekend we had our Toga party. Getting everyone into Togas started out slow, it took the staff starting out getting into togas first to get everyone in the mood, but soon everyone followed. CJ did a great job and I think she had fun too helping everyone tie their togas. TMP provided the sheets, and everyone just got creative. It was a lot of fun, we learned though that Twister should not be played in a Toga, they don't have much give and makes it difficult to hold a position, but still they seemed to get a lot of laughs playing twister. Maybe next time we can get them to opt for nekkid twister? Just a thought.

All in all it was a good party, everyone had a lot of laughs and had a great time. There was a lot of good food and dancing and everything else in between. Thank you so much to those of you that helped out and cleaned up here and there, the staff really appreciates the extra hands.

So we've heard a lot of chatter about next weeks party the last few months. It seems that the wet T-shirt contest is looking like one of our favorite events, and everyone has been talking about it for a while now and making plans. So next Saturday looks like one party you won't want to miss. One of our regulars has asked to be the water boy, and we've granted his wish, so it looks like B will have the privilege of getting all of you ladies wet. We have plenty of T-shirts for you to show off in, feel free to alter them how ever you like to make you feel your best.

For our Valentine's party, which will be Feb 10th, we will also be doing an amateur night. If you need music or anything like that please use the music requests button to the left so we can make sure we have it for you ahead of time. The price of the Valentine's party for couples and single gentlemen will remain the same. Single ladies the cost is $10 or one of the following: the big can of Maxwell House coffee, 2 100oz bottles of laundry detergent, 24 pack of double roll toilet paper or an 8-10 pack of paper towels. Membership fees are extra if they are due.

Looking forward to seeing everyone soon, have a great week!
Trish

Labels: adult party, fun, swingers club, themes

Swing Towns is a swings site with profiles, chat rooms, events calendar and much more. They help our club out by letting us promote it on their site, they also give us free gold memberships that we can give away every month. These memberships give you complete access to the entire site for a month, including the chat rooms and e-mail.

So since we have these memberships and we can now give them away via e-mail I thought we would hold a drawing here on our site. The staff needs some help with suggestions for themes and games. So for every suggestion you make we will put you into a drawing for a free gold membership at SwingTowns. Simply leave a comment to this message with your suggestion, as well as a way to contact you in the event you win. You can enter as often as you like. For duplicate suggestions we will take the first one submitted. All comments left are time and date stamped, so we will know which was done first. They are also all moderated to keep out spam, so it won't show up until I approve it, so don't panic if you don't see it right away. The contest will run until February 15th, I will notify the winner on February 19th as well as post it here. If you have questions please use the e-mail questions button on the right.




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This coming weekend we will be having our "Animal House" Style frat party complete with Togas and Twister.....what more could you want? This should prove to be a really fun exciting party. So Hope to see everyone out in their togas just having a great time. Don't have a sheet? Not a problem, we have plenty and I'm sure we can find someone to help you fashion it into a great Toga. Here's the Basic instructions on how to tie a Toga:

Around the waist at least once Pin it at that point Throw the rest over one shoulder Around the back Pin it again at the waist. Wear gym shorts underneath (this is a flexible point) Try to wear sandals, if possible Now that's the basic design. Used by males at least. Variations used by females would be to use the some basic wrap design, of some form, often followed by small horizontal bands (leather, chain, whatever), accentuating waist and bust line. Usually women want to have the costume at least be attractive, whereas guys really don't care how dufus they look. If fact, the more dufus you look, the more your friends will make fun of you, and thus the more popular you will be at the party.

Need help with other Toga Ideas check here: http://www.1worldsarongs.com/sartiesusetc.html

If you haven't been to The Meeting Place lately, there have been a lot of changes taking place and we're really excited about them. We now have a staff of 14 wonderful volunteers, they not only help keep the place clean and neat but they also come up with all of the great themes and events, help out our new couples, add in some special touches here and there and so much more. A few weeks back we installed new carpeting in the main meeting area, and we are working on saving up for new floors for the rest of the meeting area and dance floor. We have a DJ every Saturday night, as well as a theme or event for you to enjoy. There's new longer tables in the meeting area so more people can sit together and get to know one another. The biggest room upstairs has been moved around to make it more comfortable. We've added personal products to the bathrooms to help make your time at the club more comfortable. There's little things happening all over the club, and the staff is just doing a great job at getting everything done that needs to be.

We want your experience at the club to be a good one, we're working really hard to make the club the best adults only club in the Midwest. We could still use the help of the rest of the club members though, make suggestions, e-mail them (use the e-mail questions button on the right), use the suggestion box at the club, talk to a staff member. We want all of our themes and events to be fun and entertaining, so tell us what you enjoy or don't. What would make a party just that much better for you, what else could we be doing to get more people to participate in themes and events? Help us build membership by talking with others, giving out the website information, and filling in reviews for the club. You can find links to do that on the right, there's 4 sites I know about that have reviews of our club. Post comments here and let people know what you think, anyone can leave a comment. If you have an adult profile on yahoo or one of those sites, put our link in there and promote the club. If your active swingers online, suggest using the meeting place as a spot to meet another couple. Help us by keeping the club clean, the rules about no food, drinks and smoking upstairs are to keep the upstairs areas free from messes and spills. If you do see a mess or something that needs attention let a staff member know so we can take care of it. If you see someone upstairs with those things, let one of us know so we can explain to them why it's not allowed. Those are some of the things you as club members can help with.

2007 is going to be our best year yet at TMP. We have a lot of exciting things planned for the club, lots of changes and hopefully a lot of fun for everyone. So if you haven't been in awhile, come check it out and see what's new.

Trish

Labels: adult party, fun, games, swing club, swingers parties, themes

This weekend we had 2 really nice parties. Friday was a great crowd, and there was a lot of great conversations going on. With the Friday special we are now averaging about 10 couples on a Friday evening. It's a nice small party, but the price is also 1/2, so if your looking for a more intimate party, or just want to see what going to a club is like, you may want to check out our Friday party. It's just some good music in the background, and a great way to meet some new people and have some fun.

Saturday's theme was Hippies and Flower Children, we had a good turn out for the theme event. A lot of people even dressed for the occasion, we had one couple as always, who goes that bit extra and has a whole lot of fun with costuming. Probably the reason they won a free party at Halloween. B & P your outfits were just great, even if B did look like Johnny Bravo. We had some new people as well, we hope you all enjoyed your time at TMP and that you come back really soon.

The staff also threw in a big surprise to our lovely club owner on Saturday, new carpeting in the bar seating area. If you weren't there this past weekend, you missed the exciting new development, Phyllis was absolutely tickled over her new carpet, and we all felt pretty great about surprising her. To everyone that helped make that possible, thank you so much, it looks so nice down there, what a difference a little paint and carpet make. Can't wait for our next BIG project, I know we're all looking forward to that one.

If you haven't been out to TMP lately, you really need to stop in and check it out. We have an awesome staff team that really has just been working really hard to make some really exciting changes at the club. There's new curtains in some areas, new carpet of course in the bar seating area, lots of updates and changes, you really have to see the difference for yourself. So pick your favorite event from our upcoming events list and plan on making a trip out to see everything and have some fun while you are there.

This coming Saturday we will be playing truth or dare. We've had a lot of questions about how we play at TMP so I am going to take a moment to explain. We ask for a volunteer to go first. You come up, choose who will go next and then you choose a truth or dare from an array of cards. All the truths and dares are already done for you, so it's not something you have to think up. We have everything on cards we leave face down, some of the dares are specific for male and female, you choose one card and do what it says if it's a dare, or answer if it's a truth. We do ask since there is an opportunity to simply take a truth that everyone participate. This makes the game move along faster, and everyone stays entertained this way. We actually have 2 levels of Dares as well, the first level is from a store purchased adult game, these are more of the tame dares. The second level contains the more ambitious dares, these are the ones thought up by your peers at a previous party. Some of these take a bit more bravery to complete, but it's all in good fun, and last time we played everyone had a really great time.

So we hope to see you all come out and have a great time. If truth or dare isn't your thing maybe try the week after for our Animal House Frat/Toga party.

Have a great week everyone!
Trish

Labels: adult party, fun, swingers parties, themes

Hope you all had a great New Years. We are all looking forward to an awesome year at TMP. We hope to see everyone out at lots of parties and having a great time. Since we are in the New Year I just wanted to take a moment to remind everyone of a few things.

Don't forget to check out the Calendar here for all of our upcoming events. We have a theme or game or something every Saturday. We also welcome your suggestions, there is a suggestion box at the club, or you can also e-mail we_swing_4_fun_in@yahoo.com and leave your suggestions there.

The Friday special is going over so well, we will be keeping that going for awhile. If you want to come both Friday and Saturday night, you can pay for the whole weekend on Friday and pay only Saturday's price.

Singles, there have been some changes to the singles policy for both the ladies and gentlemen. If you are a single please read the singles policy in the links section here on the blog.

Membership cards, we still have some people who are coming in without their cards. Membership card must be shown at the door every time you come into a party. If you do not have your card we will gladly replace it for you, but you will have to pay for a new membership. Membership is a yearly fee, and we do not keep records other than the card you are given as to who has or hasn't paid for their membership, so please remember to bring your card along with you. We apologize for not remembering whose we have or haven't seen recently, but we have so many members that it is impossible to remember everyone, so please don't be offended if we ask to see your card.

Lockers are only to be kept by members who attend parties at the club at least twice a month. If you are there less than twice a month and leave a lock on a locker at the club, the lock will be removed and the contents placed in the lost and found. We keep a list of who belongs in which locker, and any locks left behind without letting a staff member know you are doing so, will be cut off. If you do attend at least 2 parties a month and wish to keep a locker please let a staff member know the locker number and your name(s) so it can be added to the list as an approved lock.

Please also remember that The Meeting Place is also Phyllis' home and everyone should treat it as such. The staff at the club are only volunteers, we go home just like the rest of you to real jobs and families and we really do appreciate everyone who cleans up after themselves. If you do see something that needs attention, please at least let a staff member know, don't leave it for someone to come across by mistake. We do ask that everyone leave the club by 11:00 a.m. after a party so the staff has a chance to go through and clean, and still have time left in their days to take care of their needs at home. If your unsure of who is a staff member, they are easily identified by the name badges they wear, just look for members wearing clear plastic name tags.

While the club is BYOB, and you are welcome to spend the night, encouraged in fact if you are drinking, please drink in moderation. Excessive use of alcohol only leads to problems and complications. What fun is it to drink until your sick or pass out? Not much for anyone, so please drink responsibly.

Please also remember our number 1 rule, no means no. This is for everyone not just the gentlemen. Ladies please respect the men as well when they say no, you would expect them to respect you. Be courteous to people, ask permission before joining in or touching anyone, and if they say no be understanding. Everyone has different comfort levels, and we want everyone to have a good time and be comfortable doing so. Don't take a no personally, it may just not have been a good time for what ever reason. Again if your having a problem please let a staff member know, we can't do anything about a problem if we don't know or find out weeks or months later.
With all that being said, we are looking forward to a great year at TMP. We have lots of fun events planned, and our hope is that all of you will come out and just spend some weekends enjoying yourselves. TMP above all else is a social club, and we have some of the greatest members around. There have been a lot of great friendships formed there over the years and I am sure many many more to come.

So Happy New Year Everyone!
See you at the club soon
Trish

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Many new couples seem to think that attending a party at a swingers club is a big orgy from one end to the other and that there will be pressure to participate. I hear this over and over when new couples come through the door for the first time. So I wanted to take a few moments to tell everyone what TMP (The Meeting Place) and the majority of swingers clubs are like.

First at TMP when you come in it looks very much like a house, it is a house except there is 14 bedrooms and what most call a very large bar area. Coming to TMP is much like going out to any night club, well except it is BYOB. The bar area has tables and chairs and a dance floor. There's a big pop cooler to keep your cold things in and a pop machine to add to your drinks. Most people use this area to simply meet people. They dance, talk, laugh and joke around. There may be a few playful things that go on here but for the most part it's pretty tame.

There is never pressure to do anything at any time that makes you uncomfortable. People wear what they are comfortable wearing, if you prefer to stay in your jeans and sweater all night and just hang out and meet people that is a fine way to go. Some people do dress down into lingerie, and all types of it. The ladies I would say mainly wear a chemise type nightie, but there are some that are more adventurous and get into the fun teddies and other skimpy outfits, there may even be a few who prefer being topless or naked. It's all a matter of comfort. For the men, boxers and T-shirts seem to be the majority rules clothing of choice, but there are some who go as far as the cute G-strings, and some just to a pair of lounge pants and t-shirt.

It's all about you and what makes you comfortable, don't feel because someone else goes and dresses down that you have to. You move at your own pace and should feel comfortable doing so. We have plenty of couple who do just come to meet other open minded adults. We do ask that if you want to go upstairs into the play area that you dress down. This again is to your comfort level, what ever form of night wear you are most comfortable in, that's fine with us. We ask that you wear slippers or flip flops or something along those lines and not street shoes, there's a lot of bare feet up there and getting stepped on by shoes hurts.

Ok now that's we've covered the clothing issue, let's move into other things. When it comes to playing that is completely your choice. The swingers lifestyle has many forms within itself. There are full swap couples, meaning they swap partners completely. There are soft swap couples, these couples may only swap for foreplay, or oral sex, but when it comes to actual intercourse they go back to their partners. There are couples that come simply because they like to watch and be watched. Then there are even others who are simply open minded enough to want to meet other open minded people and spend the night making friend for possible future encounters. There are couples that only play together, and those that only play apart. There are bi women and men, and straight women and men. There are those women who enjoy gang bangs, and couples who enjoy a good old fashioned orgy. There are couples who are just looking for a single female or male. These are things you and your partner should discuss before hand. Decide what things you would like to try, and what things you absolutely want to stay away from. If you decide that during you first time at a club you are only there to observe and meet people, stick to that. Come out, hang around, talk with couples, get a feel for the place, and then head home to discuss it. Any and all forms of that list above are acceptable. It's all about you and your comfort levels.

We always try and tell new couples to discuss your limits. This lifestyle works when communication is good. You must be able to tell each other what it is your looking for and decide what your rules are. This goes for going to a club or just meeting a couple outside of a club situation. Discuss everything, from condom use to how far either of you are willing to go and let your partner go. Make sure things are clear between you before meeting anyone or attending any parties. That's a sure way to make sure you will not have problems with your partner later.
If you go to a club, and you have your set rules, don't change them half way through the night. Go home discuss it first, and then decide if you want to change things. We say things sometimes because we're excited and then later regret changing it, or come to find out our partner was just too uncomfortable to state their case in the situation. This is where a lot of couples run into problems. So if you have a rule about not playing the first time you go to a club, don't suddenly decide through the night you are both comfortable enough to do so now that you've actually gotten there and met a few people. Wait go home and if you are both still in agreement after you've had a chance to discuss it outside of the club, then change your rules then, and come back again to another party.

I haven't heard a lot of men complain about this one, so I am going to put this out there for the women. A lot of women, myself included when I was new, think because you are at a club and you are putting yourself out there so to speak, that it's ok for anyone to touch you and you really can't say anything about it. This is so NOT the case. It is your body and you get to decide who can or can't touch or anything else for that matter. Just because you let someone do something once this also doesn't mean they should just assume it's ok again. There should be a level of respect there. Do not let yourself be pressured by anyone, your partner included to do anything that you may possibly feel regret over later. Life is too short to have regrets, if your uncomfortable speak up, don't stay silent and deal with it later. If someone does do something or goes to do something you just aren't comfortable with say NO. It is ok to say no, I will repeat that, it is very ok to say NO. I know Phyllis (the club owner) and myself try very hard to make sure all ladies know that for a fact. If you are uncomfortable saying no, work some sort of signal out with your partner ahead of time so they can say no for you. You do need to learn to be a bit brave here though and say no for yourself, it is very empowering, learning to say no or yes what ever the case may be. It really is your choice, and you shouldn't let someone else make it for you.

For all new couples, clubs can be intimidating. Your nervous as heck, your afraid of rejection, and your scared that others won't talk to you. We all know this, everyone who is in that room with you at some point was there for a first time. Nervousness and fear are quite common, and almost every new couple has some at a certain level. This is totally normal. A club is only going to be what you make of it though, if you come in and sit off by yourselves and don't at least try and meet people, you probably won't have a very good time. Our club has a staff of 13 members, most of whom are there on any given night. We also have a theme or event every Saturday night to try and help people get acquainted. If you are really having a hard time of it, and just can't seem to break out of your shell a little. Find a staff member, let them know your having a problem, we're used to helping new couples get through first night jitters. When going through a tour, our host couples invite new couples to sit with them, take them up on that offer. They will help introduce you to other club members. Get out on the dance floor, participate in the game or event. We do our best to try and make sure everyone is having a good time, but there are times when we are busy and don't get to everyone, so please let us know if you are really just having a hard time meeting people. Our club has enough members who come on a regular basis who we know would be more than happy to sit and help out a new couple and introduce them around.

So what sets TMP apart from other clubs, well for one it's so much more like going to a party at a friends house than it is a club. Dave and I have attended a few other clubs, we chose TMP because the people there were real. Everyone was friendly, you weren't judged on appearance, or finances, or color. It's just a group of real people who work hard all week and want a place to let off some steam over the weekend. TMP is much like going to any local bar, we all think of Cheers when we think of TMP. It really is a place to just be yourself, unwind and make some great friends. Anything else is a bonus.

I hope this post set some fear to rest for some people. I know going to a club was very intimidating for me personally, I was absolutely terrified. I was curious though at the same time, and after my second visit to TMP I realized that it really was a nice place to hang out. Most people who know me would never know I was one of those couples who sat off in the back table in the room and kept to myself. I was extremely quiet and shy and wasn't going to put myself out there for anything. There happened to be a couple at the club on our second visit who just asked us to sit with them, we did and the rest is pretty much history. It was that night I realized that I could just go and meet people and I didn't need to feel pressured to do anything I didn't want to do. It took me a little while longer to learn it was ok for me to say no when I felt uncomfortable, which is why I always tell women they can say no at any time for any reason, and they don't have to share that reason if they don't want to. The words no should be enough for anyone. So where I was once shy and timid, I am now more confident and self assured. I love being part of a wonderful place like TMP. I have made some of the best friends in my life there and I love being there on the weekends, which is why I take the time writing for this page as well as volunteering my time at the club. The Meeting Place is a special place, and it is so because of it's people and it's owner.

I hope this post helps even just one couple with their fears of clubs. One last piece of advice, if you attend a club and your first experience isn't great give it another chance on another night. If after your second of third time there you still don't feel like this is a place you'd like to visit again, try another club, give it the same opportunity. All clubs have a different atmosphere and feel to them, and because the crowd constantly changes so does the attitude a little, so don't be so quick to give up if you didn't have a fantastic night your first time. Sometimes it could just be your nerves, or maybe it was just an off night. What ever the case, give it more than one chance you might just be really glad you did, I know I am.

Trish

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First The Parties: This was a weekend to be remembered. We did have any themes, just great parties, great music and great people. Oh yeah and some sex along the way too. Those people who attended all weekend, probably had one of the best weekends of their 2006 year. Everyone who attended at least 1 night I'm sure had a great time.

Friday was an awesome party. Those that were there on Friday we mostly our all weekend couples and singles. They started out the weekend relaxing and getting to know one another. The hot tub seemed to be the focal point for many and there were people sleeping peacefully in every room by the end of the evening.

Saturday: Some headed out for shopping, others our for Wine tasting, and some just hung around ate some food, played some cards, did puzzles, chatted and got in some naps and some afternoon delight. Saturday night's party started out with Dinner and then Dave kicked up the music and we danced and played and met some more people, and more people joined in on those spending the weekend and we had a great time. Lot's of conversations about Sunday's party and New Years Eve and all the Hype.

Sunday: Even more shopping, you people know who you are. Then some more great food, I think we all ate quite a bit this weekend, but it helps keep the energy level up too. Need to replenish for the big night. A lot more nappers on Sunday, myself included. Then everyone who wasn't there for the whole weekend started to arrive and we quickly filled to capacity, and everyone was just dressed up so nice and the food was awesome. Yes more food. Then Dave started the tunes off slow and worked everyone up to lots of dance music, the floor was packed for hours. They even requested the Macarena, there's some sick people in this world......lol. We not only did the macarena, but also the Cha Cha Slide, YMCA and our ever popular Chicken Dance. Ok I know probably not what you would expect at at swingers club, but the ladies really like this dance and it gets them pumped up for the real dance music. Funny that it started off as a joke one Saturday night. As midnight approached we got the punch made for toasting and got it and the noise makers out to the crowd, and we all helped Dave count down to the New Year. With that there were lots of kisses and well wishes and the partying went on. Only this time there was a twist. We had some feisty people in the crowd and they just wanted to bring the New Year in with a bang, so one of the guests announced that she would be up on the 3rd floor for a good old fashioned orgy and anyone that wanted to go with her was welcome to join in. It took about 2 seconds for people to start heading up the stairs and the real fun began. There were 22 people up there at one count, not that anyone was really counting, but that was a lot of people, and they absolutely brought in the New Year with a Bang. Others who didn't find the orgy scene to their liking went off into rooms in pairs and trios and foursomes and moresomes. Some stayed downstairs and decided that dancing was their pleasure, what ever anyone's pleasure I'm sure they found it pretty easily that night. Although many of us could probably use an extra day off to rest, we all had a blast.

Second: Yes second usually comes after first and since I started this post off with a first there has to be a second. TMP has the best staff of any club, and yes I am biased, but that's ok, it's allowed. Without the staff at TMP these parties and all of the others throughout the year would not run as smoothly or be as easy. The TMP staff works very hard to make sure everyone has a great time at our parties. So thank you to all of you, you all know how much each and every one of you means to Phyllis. I just want everyone to know how special you all are.

So if you missed New Year's weekend 2006....you missed one hell of a party. Don't keep missing out, if you have never been to the club, or you haven't been there in a while you really need to come check it out. For New couples, although we may write here about our parties and things that go on, TMP really is a great place to meet people and make new friends above all else. There is never any pressure for you to do anything that makes you uncomfortable, and it is ok for you to just come out and meet people. We hope to see so many more of you come out to our great planned events in 2007 all year long. Please keep looking at our upcoming events post to find all the details of all of our planned events. Don't hesitate to ask questions, the staff is more than happy to talk with anyone to make their visit to TMP more enjoyable.

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!

Trish

Labels: adult party, fun