The Meeting Place

We had a great crowd on Friday, and we're so excited the Friday crowd keeps growing, and more and more people are taking advantage of the weekend Special. TMP also began carrying a small selection of adult toys starting with Friday, so next time your at the club check out the toy case located near the front door.

Saturday's party was just wild. We had so much going on and it was just awesome. We had some birthday's to celebrate and they brought their own special fun, as well as our Valentine themed party. The club was full of hearts and candles and our DJ played lots of great slow dances. I will let our birthday girl give you her own version of her birthday celebration, she is also one of the writers here. I just know she and her hubby both seemed to enjoy their birthdays a whole bunch. So Happy Birthday and Anniversary Kristina and Smily! We all hope you enjoyed celebrating your special events at The Meeting Place.

We have begun holding raffles as well on Saturday nights, we not only have toys for sale now but you can win them too. One of our host couples took care of our raffle this past Saturday, they were selling tickets by the arm length, and we gave away 5 great prizes. Thank you to everyone that helped out, P and B who sold the tickets and CJ for drawing out our winners. We really appreciate all the help.

There are more exciting changes coming, so keep checking things out and we will let you all know about everything as TMP keeps moving forward. One thing to note here, the blog is now the official TMP home page, the regular website no longer exists, so please update your bookmarks and come back here when you need information or to see upcoming events. If you see a link to the old website on another page, please e-mail me the site so I can make the corrections. Click here to send an e-mail Meeting Place Mail. That would be a big help in keeping the promotion of the club going.

This coming Saturday will be our Mardi Gras Party. If you've celebrated Mardi Gras at TMP you know how this works, but for anyone else who may be wondering..... We give all of the guys beads coming in the door, the ladies try and earn your beads. How? Well that's pretty much up to you. The Lady with the most beads at the end of the night is our winner. Now we've had some guys in the past go out and shop for beads on their own to add to what we give out at the door, this is perfectly fine with us, and we will count them in the final count as long as it's not their lady who has them at the end of the night. This gives the guys more of an opportunity to give out even more beads. So come up with your ideas on earning those beads ladies, we know just how creative you all can get.

The following Saturday will be our Sports Night theme, come dressed in your favorite team apparel, see guys we can come up with things for you too. Ladies we know you can make just about anything sexy. We will also be having the TMP sexy Olympics that night as well. We will be dividing everyone up into teams and we have some great games for you all to have a friendly competition with.

Hope to see everyone at the club, check out the buttons on the right side to find all of the information you need, if you have any questions please feel free to e-mail them to us.
Trish

Labels: adult party, fun, swingers club, themes

This was just an awesome weekend, despite the bad weather. All of us at the club weren't really affected once inside. I want to thank everyone who braved the bad weather, and we hope you all made it home safely and are keeping warm.

The Wet T-shirt contest was a big hit. Thank to B who got all the ladies wet and C who helped them all in and out of the pool, you gentlemen did a great job. To everyone that helped keep the floor dry and grab water for B to pour, thanks to you as well, awesome job. Finally to all the ladies who participated, you were all winners, and did a great job, we know that water was cold. A was our big winner of the night, sorry we try and keep peoples names out of here so you will all have to just guess which A she was, but she know who she is so congrats to you.

All of the ladies who participated received a participation prize, as well as the pleasure of getting wet from B. When the competition was over it was time for the real party to begin. We had a great crowd, 4 new couples as well as a new single gentlemen. Welcome to all of you, we hope you all had a great time. a few couples also joined us who haven't been to the club is in a while, welcome back M and R, R and S, and C and T and anyone else I missed. Oh yeah once again Happy Birthday C, we hope you had a great night, sure looked like you enjoyed your ladies dance. The action upstairs was a lot of fun too, everyone who made it up to the 3rd floor orgy we know you all had a great time.

Oh yeah and on a side note, anyone who was offended by the sheep, we apologize for any offenses it may have caused, we have spoken to the owner and asked that she please keep better control of her animals, or in the future they will no longer be allowed to attend. (ROFL) Sorry if you missed the party, this comment will just have to leave you wondering.


The staff did another one of our great planning sessions today as well, so as soon as I post this I will be updating our upcoming events, so please check out all the great stuff we have planned. We also have some other surprised planned too, but they wouldn't be a surprise if I told you about them, so you will just have to come out to the club to find out what they are or wait and read about them after they happen here. Oh and to the group who wanted to start the petition to do a Wet T-shirt Car wash, we're sorry the petition was denied before it even got started, please let's stick to more indoor activities. Your suggestions are great, this one we really can't agree with, but please keep them coming, they at the very least spark even more great ideas. (lol)

Ok folks on a more serious note, we just all had an awesome weekend. We're sorry to those of you who wanted to be there and couldn't because of the bad weather. We did schedule in another Wet T-shirt contest in May so anyone who missed this one and wanted to be there, hopefully you can keep that date open and make the next one. Keep watching this blog/newsletter for more party and club information.


We will be having our Valentine's Day party next weekend. We will not only have an open Mic night, but we will also be celebrating a few birthday's. K has requested to be a human sundae, so we have that to look forward to as well. For the open Mic night, if you need special music or anything please click the button to the right and send a request to the DJ, we will try and accommodate everyone but we are only human and do make mistakes too so please be understanding if we don't have exactly what you need. Don't forget single ladies, the cost for the party for you will be $10 plus any membership fees you may owe. Couples and single gentlemen, the price remains the same.

Everyone have a great week.....look forward to seeing you all next weekend.
Trish

Labels: adult party, fun, swingers club, themes

This past weekend we had our Toga party. Getting everyone into Togas started out slow, it took the staff starting out getting into togas first to get everyone in the mood, but soon everyone followed. CJ did a great job and I think she had fun too helping everyone tie their togas. TMP provided the sheets, and everyone just got creative. It was a lot of fun, we learned though that Twister should not be played in a Toga, they don't have much give and makes it difficult to hold a position, but still they seemed to get a lot of laughs playing twister. Maybe next time we can get them to opt for nekkid twister? Just a thought.

All in all it was a good party, everyone had a lot of laughs and had a great time. There was a lot of good food and dancing and everything else in between. Thank you so much to those of you that helped out and cleaned up here and there, the staff really appreciates the extra hands.

So we've heard a lot of chatter about next weeks party the last few months. It seems that the wet T-shirt contest is looking like one of our favorite events, and everyone has been talking about it for a while now and making plans. So next Saturday looks like one party you won't want to miss. One of our regulars has asked to be the water boy, and we've granted his wish, so it looks like B will have the privilege of getting all of you ladies wet. We have plenty of T-shirts for you to show off in, feel free to alter them how ever you like to make you feel your best.

For our Valentine's party, which will be Feb 10th, we will also be doing an amateur night. If you need music or anything like that please use the music requests button to the left so we can make sure we have it for you ahead of time. The price of the Valentine's party for couples and single gentlemen will remain the same. Single ladies the cost is $10 or one of the following: the big can of Maxwell House coffee, 2 100oz bottles of laundry detergent, 24 pack of double roll toilet paper or an 8-10 pack of paper towels. Membership fees are extra if they are due.

Looking forward to seeing everyone soon, have a great week!
Trish

Labels: adult party, fun, swingers club, themes

Many new couples seem to think that attending a party at a swingers club is a big orgy from one end to the other and that there will be pressure to participate. I hear this over and over when new couples come through the door for the first time. So I wanted to take a few moments to tell everyone what TMP (The Meeting Place) and the majority of swingers clubs are like.

First at TMP when you come in it looks very much like a house, it is a house except there is 14 bedrooms and what most call a very large bar area. Coming to TMP is much like going out to any night club, well except it is BYOB. The bar area has tables and chairs and a dance floor. There's a big pop cooler to keep your cold things in and a pop machine to add to your drinks. Most people use this area to simply meet people. They dance, talk, laugh and joke around. There may be a few playful things that go on here but for the most part it's pretty tame.

There is never pressure to do anything at any time that makes you uncomfortable. People wear what they are comfortable wearing, if you prefer to stay in your jeans and sweater all night and just hang out and meet people that is a fine way to go. Some people do dress down into lingerie, and all types of it. The ladies I would say mainly wear a chemise type nightie, but there are some that are more adventurous and get into the fun teddies and other skimpy outfits, there may even be a few who prefer being topless or naked. It's all a matter of comfort. For the men, boxers and T-shirts seem to be the majority rules clothing of choice, but there are some who go as far as the cute G-strings, and some just to a pair of lounge pants and t-shirt.

It's all about you and what makes you comfortable, don't feel because someone else goes and dresses down that you have to. You move at your own pace and should feel comfortable doing so. We have plenty of couple who do just come to meet other open minded adults. We do ask that if you want to go upstairs into the play area that you dress down. This again is to your comfort level, what ever form of night wear you are most comfortable in, that's fine with us. We ask that you wear slippers or flip flops or something along those lines and not street shoes, there's a lot of bare feet up there and getting stepped on by shoes hurts.

Ok now that's we've covered the clothing issue, let's move into other things. When it comes to playing that is completely your choice. The swingers lifestyle has many forms within itself. There are full swap couples, meaning they swap partners completely. There are soft swap couples, these couples may only swap for foreplay, or oral sex, but when it comes to actual intercourse they go back to their partners. There are couples that come simply because they like to watch and be watched. Then there are even others who are simply open minded enough to want to meet other open minded people and spend the night making friend for possible future encounters. There are couples that only play together, and those that only play apart. There are bi women and men, and straight women and men. There are those women who enjoy gang bangs, and couples who enjoy a good old fashioned orgy. There are couples who are just looking for a single female or male. These are things you and your partner should discuss before hand. Decide what things you would like to try, and what things you absolutely want to stay away from. If you decide that during you first time at a club you are only there to observe and meet people, stick to that. Come out, hang around, talk with couples, get a feel for the place, and then head home to discuss it. Any and all forms of that list above are acceptable. It's all about you and your comfort levels.

We always try and tell new couples to discuss your limits. This lifestyle works when communication is good. You must be able to tell each other what it is your looking for and decide what your rules are. This goes for going to a club or just meeting a couple outside of a club situation. Discuss everything, from condom use to how far either of you are willing to go and let your partner go. Make sure things are clear between you before meeting anyone or attending any parties. That's a sure way to make sure you will not have problems with your partner later.
If you go to a club, and you have your set rules, don't change them half way through the night. Go home discuss it first, and then decide if you want to change things. We say things sometimes because we're excited and then later regret changing it, or come to find out our partner was just too uncomfortable to state their case in the situation. This is where a lot of couples run into problems. So if you have a rule about not playing the first time you go to a club, don't suddenly decide through the night you are both comfortable enough to do so now that you've actually gotten there and met a few people. Wait go home and if you are both still in agreement after you've had a chance to discuss it outside of the club, then change your rules then, and come back again to another party.

I haven't heard a lot of men complain about this one, so I am going to put this out there for the women. A lot of women, myself included when I was new, think because you are at a club and you are putting yourself out there so to speak, that it's ok for anyone to touch you and you really can't say anything about it. This is so NOT the case. It is your body and you get to decide who can or can't touch or anything else for that matter. Just because you let someone do something once this also doesn't mean they should just assume it's ok again. There should be a level of respect there. Do not let yourself be pressured by anyone, your partner included to do anything that you may possibly feel regret over later. Life is too short to have regrets, if your uncomfortable speak up, don't stay silent and deal with it later. If someone does do something or goes to do something you just aren't comfortable with say NO. It is ok to say no, I will repeat that, it is very ok to say NO. I know Phyllis (the club owner) and myself try very hard to make sure all ladies know that for a fact. If you are uncomfortable saying no, work some sort of signal out with your partner ahead of time so they can say no for you. You do need to learn to be a bit brave here though and say no for yourself, it is very empowering, learning to say no or yes what ever the case may be. It really is your choice, and you shouldn't let someone else make it for you.

For all new couples, clubs can be intimidating. Your nervous as heck, your afraid of rejection, and your scared that others won't talk to you. We all know this, everyone who is in that room with you at some point was there for a first time. Nervousness and fear are quite common, and almost every new couple has some at a certain level. This is totally normal. A club is only going to be what you make of it though, if you come in and sit off by yourselves and don't at least try and meet people, you probably won't have a very good time. Our club has a staff of 13 members, most of whom are there on any given night. We also have a theme or event every Saturday night to try and help people get acquainted. If you are really having a hard time of it, and just can't seem to break out of your shell a little. Find a staff member, let them know your having a problem, we're used to helping new couples get through first night jitters. When going through a tour, our host couples invite new couples to sit with them, take them up on that offer. They will help introduce you to other club members. Get out on the dance floor, participate in the game or event. We do our best to try and make sure everyone is having a good time, but there are times when we are busy and don't get to everyone, so please let us know if you are really just having a hard time meeting people. Our club has enough members who come on a regular basis who we know would be more than happy to sit and help out a new couple and introduce them around.

So what sets TMP apart from other clubs, well for one it's so much more like going to a party at a friends house than it is a club. Dave and I have attended a few other clubs, we chose TMP because the people there were real. Everyone was friendly, you weren't judged on appearance, or finances, or color. It's just a group of real people who work hard all week and want a place to let off some steam over the weekend. TMP is much like going to any local bar, we all think of Cheers when we think of TMP. It really is a place to just be yourself, unwind and make some great friends. Anything else is a bonus.

I hope this post set some fear to rest for some people. I know going to a club was very intimidating for me personally, I was absolutely terrified. I was curious though at the same time, and after my second visit to TMP I realized that it really was a nice place to hang out. Most people who know me would never know I was one of those couples who sat off in the back table in the room and kept to myself. I was extremely quiet and shy and wasn't going to put myself out there for anything. There happened to be a couple at the club on our second visit who just asked us to sit with them, we did and the rest is pretty much history. It was that night I realized that I could just go and meet people and I didn't need to feel pressured to do anything I didn't want to do. It took me a little while longer to learn it was ok for me to say no when I felt uncomfortable, which is why I always tell women they can say no at any time for any reason, and they don't have to share that reason if they don't want to. The words no should be enough for anyone. So where I was once shy and timid, I am now more confident and self assured. I love being part of a wonderful place like TMP. I have made some of the best friends in my life there and I love being there on the weekends, which is why I take the time writing for this page as well as volunteering my time at the club. The Meeting Place is a special place, and it is so because of it's people and it's owner.

I hope this post helps even just one couple with their fears of clubs. One last piece of advice, if you attend a club and your first experience isn't great give it another chance on another night. If after your second of third time there you still don't feel like this is a place you'd like to visit again, try another club, give it the same opportunity. All clubs have a different atmosphere and feel to them, and because the crowd constantly changes so does the attitude a little, so don't be so quick to give up if you didn't have a fantastic night your first time. Sometimes it could just be your nerves, or maybe it was just an off night. What ever the case, give it more than one chance you might just be really glad you did, I know I am.

Trish

Labels: FAQ, swing club, swingers club, swingers help, swingers lifestyle

We had an excellent party on Friday night, although it was a bit cold, everyone managed to find a way to keep warm. Those of you that were there, the second furnace is working once again, thank you for your patience.

Saturday night we tried out a Gigilo night. The ladies had asked for it after our ever popular Hooker night. It started out a bit slow, we have some really shy guys, but we had one that was brave enough to get the party started. B offered himself up first, and to get the others playing some of the staff ladies posed a challenge to the men that would let them have the opportunity to earn $400 play money for danicing for us. We got 2 brave men to do that. Eventually a few other men jumped into the game and we all had a blast. We ended the game with a tie, J and B both earned $9,000 in play money. So we had them draw high card to determin the winner, and B won 1st place, J followed up in second and we had 1 gentlemen, M, who came in with only 1 hour left in the game and earned $7800 in play money, and he won 3rd. So congrats to all you lucky winners, we hope you all had fun participating. Enjoy using your party certificates for the various discounts.

Next Saturday we will be doing another team event, Adult Trivia. Don't worry CJ we will make sure you are never on team 4 again....lol. Our team events really seem to get people talking and laughing and just having a lot of fun. This will also be our last weekend for toys for tots, so please remember to bring in those new unwrapped toys and help out some needy kids this holiday.
The following weekend will be the club X-mas party, and don't forget to get your reservations in for New Years weekend. The final day to make reservations is December 23rd you can do that by following the reservations link on the right, calling the club or adding your name to the sheet by the door at the club.

Reservations are only to get you the discount on the entire weekend. If your only planning on coming for 1 night no reservation is necessary. Friday night will be a$35 donation, Saturday night a $60 donation, and Sunday a $75 donation, or with a reservation a $125 donation for all 3. Reservations help us plan for the meals we serve, it's so much easier when we know how many to plan meals for. We always make some extra but having a number to start with helps. We will serve breakfast, lunch and dinner on Saturday and Sunday, and breakfast on Monday morning. You are welcome to spend the entire weekend at the club, or head out here and there for some sight seeing or shopping, or what ever you choose.

So hope to see everyone at the club, if you can't make it out before the Holidays have a safe and happy one.
Trish

Labels: adult party, swing club, swingers club, swingers parties